On Indian Twitter, since last 24 hours #MarriageStrike hashtag is trending. By the time of writing this article, it has crossed over 50,000 tweets. At one time, it was trending at number 2 position on Twitter nation wide.
The background is that many Indian men decided enough is enough and planned to go on a Marriage Strike. Already India is one of the worst countries in the world (probably the worst) for married men, and currently some Feminist advocates have petitioned in Delhi High Court to strike off an exception in Indian Rape law (IPC 375) which doesn’t consider forced or non-consensual sex by husband with his wife as an criminal offense. The Feminists are arguing that this violates Article 14 of Indian Constitution for women, as it distinguishes between married and unmarried women. The Feminists and event the Court have completely disregarded the fact that Indian men are offered no protection from Rape in India, and the entire IPC 375 itself violates Article 14 for men. So Indian women are free to rape adult men in India, legally.
After reading about the one sided biased arguments about Marital Rape in Delhi High Court, a large section of Indian men decided it is enough and started posting tweets with hashtag #MarriageStrike on Twitter. Indian men are already constantly harassed by their wives by plethora of False Cases like 498a, DV Act, 125,Dowry Death and POCSO. So having one more threat of false #MaritalRape cases will surely spell doom for many Indian married men. Also, if the exception of Marital Rape is removed from IPC 375, conviction for every single accused husband is 100% guaranteed, whether he committed the crime or not. This will be discussed in future article.
Below are some popular tweets from #MarriageStrike trend:
Tonight at 9:00pm, please get ready to go all out like crazy in twitter & people about #MarriageStrike by Men in India.
Whether you boycott marriage or not, just join the campaign in Twitter. Just tweet #MarriageStrike.
Tell all ur friends and family members also to join.
Guys !! How many times I will tell you ?? Now Delhi High Court is talking in my lines. MARRIAGE & MUTUAL FUNDS ARE SUBJECT TO MARKET RISK.. READ OFFER DOCUMENTS BEFORE SIGNING THE CONTRACT. Try to misunderstand my words properly !!!#विवाह_बहिष्कार#MarriageStrike@kedianirmal26pic.twitter.com/ETOA6J6Blp
This is the Gynocentric social order wrongly labelled as patriarchy since it benefits funding to feminist NGOs and their charlatans. #MarriageStrikepic.twitter.com/eEqg05UZiD
In last article, I discussed why MGTOW lifestyle is so appealing to modern men. However, there are many roadblocks or deterrents which prevent or make it difficult for men to follow MGTOW, especially Indian men. India is largely a conservative society, so there are quite a few unique challenges for men to follow MGTOW. I will explain each of them, and try to give solutions for each one. However, following MGTOW depends on a man’s resolve and self control. Men who crumble under peer pressure can never follow MGTOW lifestyle. I am not discussing “Society” here because MGTOW don’t care about society.
Parents
Parents are the biggest deterrent of MGTOW in India. In India, parents are used to controlling their children’s lives as they see fit. The most common situation is that unmarried men are controlled by their parents, and married men are controlled by their wives. Parents simply cannot imagine their son being single for whole life. They fear what society will say or how they will face the society when they will ask questions about their unmarried son. Parents also think that since their marriage lasted long, their son’s will too. Even after knowing the situation of laws, they will have a false sense of security that it won’t happen to them.
Solution: First of all, be independent. Don’t depend on your parents, especially financially. Move out of parent’s house if possible. Explain your parents about the biased laws in detail. Show them the videos of in-laws being beaten up by daughter-in-laws, and the cases being filed on in-laws even if they are the ones being harassed. There are many videos, news available. Show them the extremely biased and hopeless Court judgements like asking men to pay maintenance by begging or borrowing or stealing, or to pay millions in alimony to a cruel wife. If they are sensible, they will realize that world has changed for the bad, and safety of themselves and their son is in MGTOW lifestyle. A good parent will be happy if their kids are happy. So show them that you are more happy being a MGTOW.
Girlfriend
Many guys come to know about MGTOW when already in relationship (most times with a toxic girlfriend) and are fearful about what would she do if they broke up. They fear about false rape cases or false domestic violence cases as discussed here. So getting out of relationship is not that easy. There are way too many cases where girlfriends are filing rape cases after boyfriend breaks up, and are forcing them to marry.
Solution: Make your girl break up, rather than you breaking up. This needs to be planned meticulously, depending upon the girl’s likes and dislikes. Start behaving slowly like a person she hates or has no interest in. Almost all women/girls are insanely hypergamous, so use that at your advantage. Always talk about how scared are you are of your job, and cry randomly. Act emasculated in front of her. No woman likes an emasculated man. Call her later at night saying you are really scared. If she asks you to visit psychiatrist, get real angry or shout on her. Lower your sexual performance. Start liking or showing attraction towards other religion. Start smelling bad, become too clingy. All depends on what your girl doesn’t like. DON’T under any circumstances try to go after other girls or praise other girls to make her jealous. That doesn’t work, it might make her more possessive of you or she can file fake rape case immediately.
Friend Circle
If your friend circle is full of blue pilled guys/beta males/simps, you will find that they will discourage you from following MGTOW lifestyle. Even they are married, and they are unhappy in the marriages (trust me, 95% of men aren’t happy, no matter what they tell you), they will still encourage you to marry. Even if they are supportive, you will find it awkward to hang out with them. Going on trips with them will be impossible, as all their trips will involve their wives, as almost no married woman allows their husbands to go on men only trips. So you will feel odd one out. Some of their wives might even flirt with you or come on to you, further creating awkward situations.
Solution: A true friend will always support your decision. Change friend circle if you don’t have such friends. Almost every major city in India has men fighting for fake cases. You can find such groups on MensRights.Net. They have weekly meets, trips, tours etc. You can even travel solo. Many people enjoy solo traveling, as you are free to take your own decisions. You can join online communities, clubhouse meets to find like minded people. Don’t let your friends decide what you want to do or what you want to be.
The want of a Successor
Many men marry because they want a successor or heir. Going MGTOW means they wont have a successor, and this is what compels them to fall into the marriage trap. Some are even against adoption, they want their DNA to be passed on. Many men have married just to make sure their precious lineage is alive, but have ended up with daughters.
Solution: Don’t ruin your life for something that happens after your death. Adoption is an easy solution to this problem. Personally, I feel that unless you have some Super Hero genes or are from a royal historic family, your DNA is not that special to pass on to next generation. Adopt a baby, give that child a life he deserves. (Single men can’t adopt a female child in India). If you really really want to have a biological child, move to a country which has surrogacy laws that support surrogates for single men. Another solution is to just not worry about a successor, and donate all your wealth and property to your sibling’s kids or to a Men’s Rights organization of your choice.
Old Age
Another major reason that causes men to marry is worrying about old age. They think if they don’t have wife and kids, no one will take care of them in old age, and they will lead a miserable life.
Solution: Such men are unaware about the cases filed by wives after 20, sometimes 30 years of marriage. Sometimes cases are filed with participation of kids. Also, many senior citizens are getting harassed by their daughter in laws, and courts have already given right to residence to such daughter in laws. So there is no guarantee of a peaceful old age life even if you have a family. If you are a man facing fake cases like 498a or DV Act, just look at your parents. Do you want to suffer the same fate in your old age? Moreover, if you are MGTOW, you will have saved so much money that you can move to a country with best old age home in the world, and enjoy your twilight age in peace and harmony.
Conclusion
I have tried to include all the major reasons that act as roadblock or deterrents for MGTOW lifestyle, especially in India. I didn’t include religion because most religions already allow for celibate/single lifestyle (Bhramacharya/Sanyas in Hinduism, Monks in Buddhism etc.). If there are any other major reasons, please post them in comments. I will try to cover them.
In past articles, I have explained what is MGTOW, various levels of MGTOW and dangers of having relationships and marriages in India. In this article, I will try to cover why is MGTOW lifestyle so appealing, especially in 2021. Remember, MGTOW is a way of life, not a movement.
MGTOW Life
No fake cases/allegations
Lets cover the most obvious one first. Many men spend their most productive years, either fighting fake cases or in fear of fake cases. The fake allegations of rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence are extremely common all across the world. If you are a MGTOW, you don’t have to deal with all this at all. You keep minimum female contact, and hence are almost immune to fake allegations. Only thing is to avoid fake Sexual Harassment claims at workplace, by following simple discipline like not talking to female colleagues in closed meeting rooms, not hanging out with them, and keeping minimum required professional contact. If you are an entrepreneur, then even better, you can completely avoid female contact, and avoid fake allegations.
Power of autonomy
Almost all decisions of married men/men in relationships (lets call them non-MGTOW from now on) are not autonomous. They have to either get approval from their partner, or just do what they say. Otherwise they have to bear days of nagging and whining, which can lead to fake allegations if you ever take a stand. Don’t let other men fool you, not a single non-MGTOW man is autonomous. Modern women are extremely controlling, and the laws have made them unapologetic about exercising control. Being MGTOW gives you complete control on your own life. This can be a liberating experience. You want to sit at home on weekend doing absolutely nothing? You can do that. You want to travel to some scenic spot alone at 5 AM in morning? You can do that. Complete autonomy over your own life.
Pursue Hobbies Unrestricted
One more big limitation of non-MGTOW men is that they either have to give up their hobbies or follow them in limited sense. Their partners tend to look down upon their hobbies. For example, if you liked Gaming before, you pretty much have to give it up because the woman will never allow you to spend time and money on anything other than her. I know a case when a guy bought a powerful kickass speaker setup, but couldn’t gather courage to tell his wife about it. He kept it in his car for 2 weeks, waiting for the right time to tell her, and when he finally told her, she asked him to return it because it was too “costly”. So what is the point of making money if you can’t spend it how you want? Other hobbies like watching sports with your buddies are also frowned upon by women. As MGTOW, you are free to follow your hobbies and have recreational time at your own leisure and convinience.
Stress free life and work
How many times have you heard from non-MGTOW men that they want to earn more to provide a comfortable life for their wife and kids? You can see them sucking up to their bosses or working 12 hours a day, for that elusive promotion so that they can keep meeting the demands of their kids and wife. During time of layoffs, they are extremely stressed, worrying about their kid’s school fees or their house EMIs. The heart attacks among young men are at all time high, major reasons being overwork and stress. As MGTOW, you will not be worried about this. Whatever you earn is sufficient and even a job loss affect you that much, if your savings are good. You don’t have to work 12 hours a day if you don’t want to OR you can work 16 hours a day if that is what you enjoy. There will be no one waiting at home crying that you are not giving them enough time and attention. You can fulfil your professional goals easily. There are many examples of MGTOW inventors and celebrities to follow. Nikola Tesla is a perfect example.
Save more money
Its a known fact that a man’s 1/3rd savings are spent on his wife/girlfriend, whether she is earning or not. Then once you have kids, even more is spent on their school. You are stuck in this vicious circle of being a provider for life. As MGTOW, you can save way more compared to non-MGTOW. And then you can spend on whatever you want, no restrictions. Even if a MGTOW is at several levels below a non-MGTOW guy in same company, he would save more. If you want to save more money, which will be spent as per your wish, MGTOW is the way.
Conclusion
These are just few points I covered as advantages for being MGTOW and how they make MGTOW appealing. You can add more in comments. In next article, I will cover what are the roadblocks or factors that prevent men from fully embracing MGTOW lifestyle, and how to overcome them, especially in India.
In earlier series of “Why Indian men shouldn’t marry?” I discussed why it is not a good idea for Indian men to marry, thanks to India’s legal framework which is setup for exploitation of married men. In this post, I will explain why Indian men/boys shouldn’t even consider having relationships in India. Having a romantic relationship or even casual fling is extremely risky in India for males. Similar to marital laws, India has a plethora of draconian, illogical and heavily biased women “protection” laws. And no, we can’t blame the Britishers for these laws as some like POCSO or DV Act were enacted way after India became independent, but were still drafted like it is 1857. If you have a relationship, and if it breaks, then the girl has a number of laws to send you to jail if she wants to teach you a lesson for dumping her. I will cover them in detail below.
74% acquittal rate in 2019, out of which 70% cases were filed for consensual sex
Consensual Sex in India before marriage=RAPE
India’s Rape law is quite special. First of all, as soon as a rape complaint is filed by a woman, the accused HAS to be arrested by police (unless accused is a celebrity). No evidence needed. In fact, after the “Nirbhaya” candle marches in 2012, women can refuse medical tests at the time of lodging complaint, and FIR will still be registered. Moreover, any woman can claim she repeatedly had consensual sex with her boyfriend for years, and it was rape because he promised to marry her sometime in future. Yes, you read it right, as per Indian law, women are so stupid that they can sleep with anyone who promises to marry, and if they do so, they are considered as rape victims. No other country in the world has such provision. When these laws were drafted, probably government thought that women will rarely lie about getting raped, which was probably true in 90s, but post 2012, there has been a flood of such cases. Women have become expert liars, and thanks to Supreme Court’s judgement about hiding identity of rape victim and have closed trials in courts, no one knows if a woman has filed a rape complaint. So this has become a sure shot weapon to wreck vengeance on the boyfriends for dumping them, and since arrest of the boyfriend is imminent, most of them either pay up or end up marrying the women under pressure. Yearly, over 16000 men are jailed for having consensual sex in India. Screenshot from National Crime Records Bureau’s 2019 data below. Also, the man/boy doesn’t even need to have sex with the girl to become a rapist in India. I have seen Chargesheet for a rape case, where an arranged marriage broke up, and the girl filed rape complaint. Only evidence needed was a photo with the guy at some café, and a medical report saying she is capable of having intercourse. That’s it.
In 2019; 16,311 men were jailed for having consensual sex in India
POCSO
I have covered POCSO briefly earlier. Protection Of Children from Sexual Offenses act came into enforcement in 2012. It is used to punish sexual offences against minors (under 18 as per India’s age of consent). Even though the victims can be of either gender, the act becomes extremely biased when the complainant and the accused are both minors. So, if a 15 year old boy has a sexual relationship with a 17 year old girl, as per POCSO, the boy becomes the rapist and girl becomes the victim. Isn’t this bafflingly absurd? The people who drafted this act forgot to apply common sense and didn’t cover all possible scenarios. A 17 year old boy was sentenced to life imprisonment under POCSO for having consensual sex with a 15 year old girl. In another most shocking incident, a 13 year old younger brother was sent to detention center under POCSO, as his 16 year old porn addict sister forced him to have sex , and she became pregnant. So if you are a teenage boy, and have decided to romance teenage girls, beware, she or her family can send you to jail for life under POCSO.
16 year old boy was booked for kidnapping and raping his 17.5 year old girlfriend
Live-in Relationships are Domestic Relationships
As per Indian Judiciary, couples in Live-in relationship are in a Domestic Relationship, so the woman can file complaint under DV Act 2005, which is already discussed here. So after breakup, the woman can easily file a case on the man under DV Act and demand maintenance, right to residence etc. So in addition to Rape case, the man in a Live-in relationship can be harassed by DV Act as well. So a Live-in relationship is potentially more dangerous than marriage. Though at least his parents will be safe, so there’s that.
In India, contested divorce should be renamed as Impossible Divorce. Contested divorce means when an opposite party decides that he/she will ruin the life of the spouse wanting separation, by using the snail paced judiciary at their advantage. When a man files a contested divorce in India, his wife first files entire Fake case package discussed in Part 1 and Part 2 in detail, whether she wants to continue marriage or not. Some do this to get better alimony amount and property (read: extortion), some do just for ego, some do this to threaten the husband so that he takes divorce petition back or some do this just for harassment and sadistic pleasure. Any woman who goes to a lawyer once her husband files divorce, is presented with this fake case package. Most women who are at fault, opt for this readily. Then begins a cat and mouse game of fake cases, court dates, mediations etc. Remember, for Divorce cases, you get a one court date per month (some times once in two months), so at max you get 12 dates per year. In most cases, first 5 to 6 dates are wasted by the wife just to even appear in court, and rest 5-6 dates are wasted by not filing Written Statement (her reply to husband’s petition). So just like that, almost 1 or 2 years are gone, and husband’s situation remains exactly the same, minus the money he spent on lawyer. And then wife’s lawyer uses all the tactics available in the book like asking for mediation, adjournments etc. and around 3-4 years are totally wasted.
Divorce in Higher Courts=More pain
If by some magic, or sheer luck, a husband gets a divorce in lower court/family court, the wife is free to challenge it in Higher courts. So the entire cycle begins again. As the level of courts increases, lawyer fees increase too. Also, High Courts of a state are usually in state capitals or bigger cities, so if you are not located there, husbands have to travel. It just adds on to the misery and time wastage. This simple problem can be solved by making Video conferencing a norm in Indian court hearings, but such sensible decisions are almost never taken in India. Now you must be wondering why the wife will waste her own age fighting cases for years, when the marriage is already broken? No one knows for sure. Its either her extreme stupidity OR lack of sensible parents/friends/well wishers OR just sheer ego/audacity that consumes her sanity and she fights on and on, till she reaches Menopause. There have been instances where husband got divorce for a 20 days marriage after 19 years, and wife has still challenged it in High Court. In one case, wife hid her heart disease from husband, and fought divorce for 16 years. In another case, wife filed multiple fake cases on Husband, cost him his job, and still fought Divorce for 12 years.
Mutual Consent Divorce
Mutual Consent Divorce (MCD) is a divorce in which both husband and wife get separated by agreeing mutually. This case lasts for 6 months (sometimes even a week if 6 months separation period is waived off) in court. 90% of contested divorces end up as MCD. This usually happens when the wife finds her next extortion target and decides its not worth fighting her current husband endlessly. Or the current husband gets her trapped by winning the fake cases and filing criminal defamation or malicious prosecution or perjury. Or the husband just agrees to all demands of his wife. Most of the time, this decision is taken too late by the wife, and nothing meaningful remains in life of either the husband or the wife. Whatever could have happened within first 6 months of separation by cool headed spouses, happens after 6 or sometimes 10 years, because ego takes over common sense.
Conclusion
As you can see, filing divorce by a husband never ends well. I didn’t even cover the grounds of filing a divorce by a husband, or the evidences need to prove the grounds in court. This is simply pointless, as the time to show evidences in court comes after 2-3 years of filing a Divorce case. This is why most MRA organizations never suggest husbands to file divorce. The only good solution to get separated peacefully is actually to never get married in the first place. I haven’t even covered the painful point about alimony and maintenance post divorce, where husbands have been asked to pay maintenance to their working divorced wife, even after their second marriage. Or when husband was asked to pay maintenance even after paying permanent alimony. Or when Supreme Court of India asked Husband to give his wife a house worth Rs 1 crore, despite finding her guilty of cruelty.
With this, I have covered husbands have to go through in the 5 part series of “Why Indian Men shouldn’t marry?”. Please share this with all unmarried men of India, so that they know what is in store for them after marriage. The divorce rates are steadily increasing, they are already around 40% in top cities, and soon the country wide numbers will reach 30% in next 15 years or so.
PS: If an married man needs guidance on how to get separated from his wife, please join MensRights.Net.
In Part 1 we saw how Husband and his family can be jailed, in Part 2 I covered how his property is in danger and in Part 3 I covered how his life is in danger. In this part, I will cover if somehow a child is born in a toxic marriage, how that child is used as weapon by the wife, and how she is aided by judiciary and society. In India, the child custody laws though neutral on paper, are extremely biased against men and the plight of separated fathers is often neglected by society, media and judiciary. Lets cover these issues in detail.
Parental Alienation aided by Courts
Parental Alienation of Fathers
Many separated women use their children as tool for extortion or vengeance. Almost 60-70% of separated couples are separated during the woman’s pregnancy or just after a child is born. Maybe these are hormonal issues or just planned extortion by women, I don’t know. However, once a woman has custody of children & files cases, fathers are never allowed to even see the face of a child or talk on phone. Only way to do this is via filing Visitation Rights or Custody cases, but custody to father is rarely granted. Even if courts grant visitation rights, women rarely comply with them, as Courts never bother to book women under contempt of court. Worst part is that most of these visitation rights are granted conditionally, like pay maintenance and only then you can see children. This is normalized in courts. There have been extremely horrific incidents like mothers taking custody of children, denying visitation rights to father, and keeping the child at her mother’s place, and child was murdered. The Father didn’t even know the news till 1 week later. You can watch the father’s interview here. In many cases, women or her paramours have murdered the children, more examples here and here. Our “progressive” courts have already ruled that adulterous women can also have child custody. One of the worst cases in independent India is when a Divorced woman, who won the custody of her mentally ill son despite being in adultery, killed him for insurance. In some cases, women are teaching their kids to call their fathers as “uncle”, making their life even more miserable. Parental Alienation of Fathers is also a form of Child Abuse, and leads to more crime in fatherless society, mental issues in separated children etc., but I will cover that in detail in some future topic.
Shared Parenting & POCSO
Shared Parenting is a child custody arrangement after divorce or separation, in which both parents share the responsibility of raising their child(ren), with equal or close to equal parenting time. Some developed countries have already made this a law, and efforts are being made by MRAs to implement this in India. Obviously, Feminists will oppose this as they have opposed this in Greece when it made Shared Parenting a law. In practice, couples which separate amicably, follow shared parenting in India. Some celebrity couples are good examples. In reality, if a man is dealing with a narcissistic/vengeful/BPD wife, implementation of Shared Parenting will be nothing short of nightmare. The child will be severely brainwashed by the woman, and the shared time will be spent by the man to remove the misconceptions. The misuse of POCSO (Protection Of Children from Sexual Offenses) Act will also become rampant. There have been many cases where women have falsely accused separated Husbands of sexually assaulting their children, and the men have spent time in jail. Most recent example is this, where the matter is subjudice, so we can’t really know the reality. So if Shared Parenting is not working between warring couples now, it will not work even after it becomes a law. However, it can probably dissuade women from using their children as weapon or extortion, as they know that they have to follow shared parenting anyways.
Conclusion
So if you are a married man and have children, your life and even your children’s life can be completely destroyed by the wife. Many men know this and go through extremely abusive marriages and toxic relationships just for their children. Many men have committed suicide, unable to bear the pain of being separated from their own children, and many have not even seen the face of their own kids as wife deserted them soon after pregnancy. This is going to become worse, as in US courts, there have been judgements where men have been asked to pay for child support for their non-biological children, just because the children considered him as father figure. It won’t take long for Indian courts to “copy” this selective legal precedence from developed world, and force Indian men to pay maintenance for their wife’s children born from adulterous relationships.
Simple solution to avoid this pain & suffering: DONT MARRY. In next and final part, I will cover Divorce and Separation.
PS: If you are separated from children and want child custody/visitation rights, please join MensRights.net and seek assistance.
In the first part we covered how 498a can make life hell for married men in India. In Part 2, we will study how the two Civil/Quasi Civil cases can be used to make a married man’s life hell even further. I am clubbing these two together, as main incentive of both these cases is to absolutely exploit the married man financially till he completely breaks down. That being said, the recent Rajnesh Vs Neha Judgement by Indian Supreme Court has lowered the impact considerably when the wife is working or has worked before or is highly qualified. You can find more information about this on MensRights.net. But in case of Housewives/Homemakers, husbands are definitely screwed. We will now see how these both laws can screw up lives of married men by making them bonded slaves of wives for life.
Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005 (drafted by Feminist)
This law was drafted by a prominent Feminist lawyer in 2005, and became a law in 2006. Government and Feminists at that time felt that 498a wasn’t enough to harass the husband’s family, or they simply forgot that 498a exists, so they decided to gift this law to warring wives, who could afford a lawyer to file a court case. India is probably the only country in the world that has TWO DV laws for women. The DV Act case runs in Civil Court, and is quasi Civil in nature. It is a clumsily drafted law and is borderline unconstitutional, but hey, who cares as long as it overpowers women, right? The wife can file a case in Civil court under PWDVA 2005 against husband and his entire family. Her allegations need to be investigated by a Protection Officer, who needs to submit a DIR (Domestic Incident Report) after investigation. However, this process is rarely followed and clueless husbands are left on the mercy of their lawyers and judiciary.
Using this act, wives can demand below:
Right to Residence in Husband’s or Husband’s parent’s house
Interim and Permanent Maintenance (Free money)
Child Visitation (if by some miracle Husband has children with him)
Monetary Compensation
Again, almost all of this is provided as part of Interim Orders, which means none of the evidence is even considered. Domestic Violence itself is not clearly defined, as it includes physical, sexual, emotional and economic abuse. I have seen cases filed based on stuff like “I wasn’t given enough food”, “My mother in law taunted me” etc. When you keep such laws open to interpretation, misuse is bound to happen.
Right to Residence
This is the biggest pain point of DV Act 2005. Instead of creating DV Shelters for aggrieved women, Government and Judiciary decided it will best to provide shelter to women in the same home where she is facing the alleged Domestic Violence. So a woman can file a DV complaint, and apply for Right to Residence as Interim Relief in a house where she had a domestic relationship with her husband. This house can be her husband’s house or her in law’s house. And the Interim Orders are usually passed on 2nd or 3rd date of the court case. Earlier at least the Husband’s parent’s houses were safe, but now after this “landmark” (read biased) judgement by Indian Supreme Court a wife can take over any house she had a domestic relationship with the husband. The implications of these are huge, the elderly parents along with their son will be thrown out on streets, as usually it is impossible to live with their fake accuser Daughter In Law in the same household. There have been cases where families are living on rent and their Daughter In Law has taken over their entire multi-bedroom house for herself. So good luck owning a property in India if one wants to marry.
Interim Maintenance (Beg, Borrow or Steal)
Interim Maintenance is nothing but extortion. There is no Feminist in the world who can convince me that a woman who has means to file Civil court cases is unable to maintain herself. Wife makes tall demands like she is unable to survive, and puts on Interim Application to get hefty maintenance. Now the poor men have the misconception that well earning wife will never get maintenance as common sense dictates, but this is India. Here common sense has no place in courts. The Judges try their level best to grant ridiculous Interim Maintenance to wives, and then the wives simply stop attending the court dates. The cases then drag for years, and Husbands keep on paying monthly maintenance. Famous judgements have asked jobless husbands to Beg, Borrow or Steal, but pay maintenance to their wives. In some cases, men have died in jail for not paying maintenance, differently abled Husbands have been asked to pay maintenance to fully abled wife and physically challenged men have used crowdfunding to fund alimony. Indian Judiciary has no concept of “Durational Maintenance” which is a norm in developed nations, which makes sure wife gets a job instead of becoming a freeloader for life.
The Dreaded Ex Parte
Ex Parte is a legal concept in which if the Respondent (in this case Husband) doesn’t attend the legal proceedings, the court treats it as Ex Parte case and passes orders against him as per the requests of the Petitioner (wife). In most cases, the cunning wives give wrong address of the Husband, so that he doesn’t get the notice served and fails to attend the dates. This leads to the case becoming Ex Parte and the interim orders of exorbitant maintenance are passed, and husband doesn’t even know he owes money till he gets a notice about arrest warrant for not paying maintenance (notice is issued after wife files Execution petition, this time with correct address). In some cases, the eager Judges pass Ex Parte order even the husband and his lawyer miss a single date, because they have the habit of treating the Petitioner as their own daughter. During Covid pandemic, passing of such orders is rampant, as the women organizations and NGOs pressurized the Governments and Judiciary to pass rampant maintenance order to so called aggrieved wives. Obviously these orders can be set aside, but the mental agony and panic it causes to Husbands is unparalleled.
CrPC 125
CrPC 125 is one of those laws which considers women as infants who need support throughout their life. The very definition says that a girl needs to be maintained by the Father till she is unmarried, and post marriage she has to be maintained by her Husband. But Feminists will never protest against this law, like they did vs Adultery Law, because as long as Inequality benefits women, they are fine. In CrPC 125 as well, all maintenance atrocities like Interim Maintenance and Ex Parte apply. The real kicker is, wives file CrPC 125 as well along with DV Act, and get maintenance in both, so the husbands have to fight both cases. But at least now with Rajnesh Vs Neha judgement, courts are asking wives to submit details of all maintenance cases in Income Affidavit.
Conclusion
So, in conclusion, both these laws treat men as bonded labor and a slave for life. Men have to pay maintenance for life, even if the marriage lasted for only 1 day. There is no concept of Durational Maintenance in India, because we are still living in 1950s as per Judiciary. Recently, a woman filed a maintenance case on her husband who is suffering from cancer, and suggested that he should sell his kidney to give her money as he is going to die anyways. So unless men want to get exploited financially and loose their or their parent’s property, they shouldn’t marry. In the next part, we will cover Husband Murder and Dowry Death.
PS: If you are one the unfortunate men who are fighting cases, please head over to MensRights.Net and seek guidance.
I have already explained what MGTOW stands for in Indian context and what are the different levels of MGTOW. In this series of articles, I will try to explain why Indian men shouldn’t marry. We will first begin with most draconian of laws out there: The infamous 498a.
There are several laws made in India post independence, and most of them have been made for appeasement and vote bank politics, with very little provision to put checks and balances on their use. Most of these laws are blatant discrimination based on Gender ( hence the hashtag #GenderBiasedLaws ) aided by Article 15(3) of the Indian constitution, which allows the State to make any special provisions for women and children. One such law is 498a which was supposedly made to protect women from Dowry Harassment post marriage. However, the 498a IPC doesn’t even mention the word “dowry“
It is nothing but the harshest Domestic Violence law in the whole world. Indian Court has called the misuse of this law as “Legal Terrorism” and Supreme Court has said its ruining Indian Marriages. Also, a woman can file 498a any year after marriage. I have seen cases filed 15-20 years after marriage. So men who are in so called “Happy Marriages” now, keep your guard up. Now we will see how it can destroy married men in India.
Cognizable, Non Compoundable & Non Bailable
IPC 498a is a very harsh section, on par with heinous crimes like Murder or Rape. It is Cognizable, which means police have to register a FIR when they come to know about the “crime”. So as soon as a woman reaches the police station, police happily convert her complaint into a 498a FIR. It is Non Compoundable, means once FIR is registered, there is no way to quash it unless you get it done in High Court. Quashing is almost impossible unless the wife agrees to go with the husband in High Court (except Telangana and Andhra Pradesh). It is Non Bailable, means the man can’t get a Station Bail, police will have to bring him in front of Judicial Magistrate within 24 hours of arrest. Now in most cases, police arrest the husband (and sometimes his family) on Friday, so that he spends a weekend in Police Lockup. However, Supreme Court has issued Section 41-A guidelines in case of crimes having less than 7 years punishment like 498a, and it mandates police to serve 41-A notice to the accused and if he complies to that notice and joins the investigation, he will not be arrested. However, in many states, these guidelines are not followed and arrests do happen. And in many cases, the lawyers and even police are suggesting wives to include IPC 377 (unnatural sex) in FIR so that 41-A notice needn’t be served. Also, National Commission of Women has already recommended to increase punishment of 498a to 10 years, so that blatant arrests can resume. Latest Law Commission report mentions this and I can bet that whenever the much touted Law Reforms happen, the punishment will be increased to 10 years.
Parents/Siblings/Relatives can be booked
Yes, in their infinite wisdom, the persons who drafted this law have allowed women to book Husband’s parents, siblings, distant relatives, cousins and even the children of the sibling in 498a complaint. There have been cases when even 2 months old babies have been booked and had to apply for bail. If husband has a brother who is yet to get a job, his career aspirations are basically ruined if he has a criminal case on his head. Same goes for husband’s siblings settled outside India. No other country on this planet has such a provision. Basically husband’s entire family is on the mercy of his wife.
No Evidence required and no punishment for False accusations
Many men have knowledge about Indian law only through movies. They think that if there is no evidence against them or if they have counter evidence, they can stop FIR from being registered or punish the wife for false allegations. Reality is, their evidence is not even sniffed by Police once wife’s complaint is received. FIR is filed, and chargesheet is done and sent to court after “investigation”, and the husband gets to show his evidence in the trial as part of his defense. This stage comes in trial in 2-3 years if he is lucky. Also, the Judge and even the Public Prosecutor know that the case is fake, but they keep going through motions like typical Indian Government machinery. And once the husband is acquitted after 5 years of trial (conviction rate is only 5% all over India), it is rarely mentioned the case was false, and the acquittal is usually based on insufficient evidence. So there is absolutely no gain for the husband from 498a. At best he can use it as a ground for divorce as filing false cases is considered mental cruelty.
Media openly declares everyone as criminals after FIR is registered
Indian media is well known for its biased reporting and sensationalist headlines, fueled by political propaganda. Most of the journalists lack basic etiquettes and moral fiber, and are ready to publish anything to keep their media running. Indian Public too has some sort of weird fetish of reading/viewing news about crimes on women, so most of the TRP and views are given to Crime on Women news. So as soon as FIR is registered, the journalists readily print news about the Dowry Harassment complaints, and name and shame entire list of accused in their reports. Husband can pretty much expect himself and his family being featured in one of the local newspaper and news portal right on the next day after FIR. Some families find this extremely humiliating and are unable to recover from public shaming that occurs, as rest of the Blue Pilled Indian society considers them as monsters based on mere news alone.
CAW Cell/Bharosa Cell Harassment
In some Norther States and some cities in Western India, before 498a FIR is filed, the Crime Against Women (CAW) cell or Bharosa cell invite the husbands for counseling, based on the wife’s complaint. These places are nothing short of hell, and husband is openly asked to comply to wife’s demands or face the music. If the wife has filed the complaint in her home state, husband has to travel 1000s of KMs for these useless sessions, adding more to mental and physical agony. The sooner these cells are closed down or forbidden for counseling for matrimonial issues, the better.
Life is made hell for NRIs
One big warning to all NRIs: Never ever marry an Indian citizen woman, under any circumstances. There have been cases where women have lost DV cases in US courts, and have come back to India just to file 498a, and went back to US again to resume their life. Look out circulars are issued, passports are impounded, and many NRIs loose their jobs. Though recent judgements have mentioned that look out circulars or red corner notices should be issued in rarest of rare cases, but still it is not completely followed.
Lawyer Fees and Judicial Procedure
498a is a great source of income for lawyers. They earn a ton through anticipatory bail proceedings, failed quashing attempts, regular bail, 498a trial, and the failed attempts of Defamation and Malicious prosecution on false case filing wives. Most lawyers charge money per number of accused, so more the accused, more money they make. Also, the entire court process can be cumbersome and draining. For no fault of the husband and his family, they are treated as criminals in court premises. They have to get people to stand up as sureties during Bail proceedings, and some states like Maharashtra have absurd rules like the sureties should have a Ration Card. Good luck finding sureties who have Ration Cards readily available. So people have to end up with cash sureties, which can vary from 15,000 to 1 lakh per accused, entirely based on how Judicial Magistrate was feeling that day. This results in lakhs of money being stuck in court, as interest free deposits, till the trial ends.
Conclusion
The number of cases registered under Section 498A was 1,04,551 in 2017; 1,03,272 in 2018 and 1,25,298 in 2019. 2020 data is yet to be published, but numbers are expected to be over 1,40,000 owing to Lockdown and married couples spending more time with each other. These numbers will keep on increasing year on year, as more and more women will become aware of the weapon they can use to make their husband and his family bow to their demands. I have just mentioned some of the main pain points of 498a, and how it can destroy a man mentally, physically and financially. There have been many suicides committed by husbands in last 20-30 years due to harassment from 498a, but Government and Society doesn’t care. So it is up to men, whether they want to subject themselves to post marriage litigation hell or have a blissful life.
Simplest solution to avoid this risk: DONT MARRY. In the next part, I will cover another major weapon used by wives: Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005 and CRPC 125.
