How to overcome the common roadblocks in following MGTOW lifestyle

In last article, I discussed why MGTOW lifestyle is so appealing to modern men. However, there are many roadblocks or deterrents which prevent or make it difficult for men to follow MGTOW, especially Indian men. India is largely a conservative society, so there are quite a few unique challenges for men to follow MGTOW. I will explain each of them, and try to give solutions for each one. However, following MGTOW depends on a man’s resolve and self control. Men who crumble under peer pressure can never follow MGTOW lifestyle. I am not discussing “Society” here because MGTOW don’t care about society.

Parents

Parents are the biggest deterrent of MGTOW in India. In India, parents are used to controlling their children’s lives as they see fit. The most common situation is that unmarried men are controlled by their parents, and married men are controlled by their wives. Parents simply cannot imagine their son being single for whole life. They fear what society will say or how they will face the society when they will ask questions about their unmarried son. Parents also think that since their marriage lasted long, their son’s will too. Even after knowing the situation of laws, they will have a false sense of security that it won’t happen to them.

Solution: First of all, be independent. Don’t depend on your parents, especially financially. Move out of parent’s house if possible. Explain your parents about the biased laws in detail. Show them the videos of in-laws being beaten up by daughter-in-laws, and the cases being filed on in-laws even if they are the ones being harassed. There are many videos, news available. Show them the extremely biased and hopeless Court judgements like asking men to pay maintenance by begging or borrowing or stealing, or to pay millions in alimony to a cruel wife. If they are sensible, they will realize that world has changed for the bad, and safety of themselves and their son is in MGTOW lifestyle. A good parent will be happy if their kids are happy. So show them that you are more happy being a MGTOW.

Girlfriend

Many guys come to know about MGTOW when already in relationship (most times with a toxic girlfriend) and are fearful about what would she do if they broke up. They fear about false rape cases or false domestic violence cases as discussed here. So getting out of relationship is not that easy. There are way too many cases where girlfriends are filing rape cases after boyfriend breaks up, and are forcing them to marry.

Solution: Make your girl break up, rather than you breaking up. This needs to be planned meticulously, depending upon the girl’s likes and dislikes. Start behaving slowly like a person she hates or has no interest in. Almost all women/girls are insanely hypergamous, so use that at your advantage. Always talk about how scared are you are of your job, and cry randomly. Act emasculated in front of her. No woman likes an emasculated man. Call her later at night saying you are really scared. If she asks you to visit psychiatrist, get real angry or shout on her. Lower your sexual performance. Start liking or showing attraction towards other religion. Start smelling bad, become too clingy. All depends on what your girl doesn’t like. DON’T under any circumstances try to go after other girls or praise other girls to make her jealous. That doesn’t work, it might make her more possessive of you or she can file fake rape case immediately.

Friend Circle

If your friend circle is full of blue pilled guys/beta males/simps, you will find that they will discourage you from following MGTOW lifestyle. Even they are married, and they are unhappy in the marriages (trust me, 95% of men aren’t happy, no matter what they tell you), they will still encourage you to marry. Even if they are supportive, you will find it awkward to hang out with them. Going on trips with them will be impossible, as all their trips will involve their wives, as almost no married woman allows their husbands to go on men only trips. So you will feel odd one out. Some of their wives might even flirt with you or come on to you, further creating awkward situations.

Solution: A true friend will always support your decision. Change friend circle if you don’t have such friends. Almost every major city in India has men fighting for fake cases. You can find such groups on MensRights.Net. They have weekly meets, trips, tours etc. You can even travel solo. Many people enjoy solo traveling, as you are free to take your own decisions. You can join online communities, clubhouse meets to find like minded people. Don’t let your friends decide what you want to do or what you want to be.

The want of a Successor

Many men marry because they want a successor or heir. Going MGTOW means they wont have a successor, and this is what compels them to fall into the marriage trap. Some are even against adoption, they want their DNA to be passed on. Many men have married just to make sure their precious lineage is alive, but have ended up with daughters.

Solution: Don’t ruin your life for something that happens after your death. Adoption is an easy solution to this problem. Personally, I feel that unless you have some Super Hero genes or are from a royal historic family, your DNA is not that special to pass on to next generation. Adopt a baby, give that child a life he deserves. (Single men can’t adopt a female child in India). If you really really want to have a biological child, move to a country which has surrogacy laws that support surrogates for single men. Another solution is to just not worry about a successor, and donate all your wealth and property to your sibling’s kids or to a Men’s Rights organization of your choice.

Old Age

Another major reason that causes men to marry is worrying about old age. They think if they don’t have wife and kids, no one will take care of them in old age, and they will lead a miserable life.

Solution: Such men are unaware about the cases filed by wives after 20, sometimes 30 years of marriage. Sometimes cases are filed with participation of kids. Also, many senior citizens are getting harassed by their daughter in laws, and courts have already given right to residence to such daughter in laws. So there is no guarantee of a peaceful old age life even if you have a family. If you are a man facing fake cases like 498a or DV Act, just look at your parents. Do you want to suffer the same fate in your old age? Moreover, if you are MGTOW, you will have saved so much money that you can move to a country with best old age home in the world, and enjoy your twilight age in peace and harmony.

Conclusion

I have tried to include all the major reasons that act as roadblock or deterrents for MGTOW lifestyle, especially in India. I didn’t include religion because most religions already allow for celibate/single lifestyle (Bhramacharya/Sanyas in Hinduism, Monks in Buddhism etc.). If there are any other major reasons, please post them in comments. I will try to cover them.