On Indian Twitter, since last 24 hours #MarriageStrike hashtag is trending. By the time of writing this article, it has crossed over 50,000 tweets. At one time, it was trending at number 2 position on Twitter nation wide.
The background is that many Indian men decided enough is enough and planned to go on a Marriage Strike. Already India is one of the worst countries in the world (probably the worst) for married men, and currently some Feminist advocates have petitioned in Delhi High Court to strike off an exception in Indian Rape law (IPC 375) which doesn’t consider forced or non-consensual sex by husband with his wife as an criminal offense. The Feminists are arguing that this violates Article 14 of Indian Constitution for women, as it distinguishes between married and unmarried women. The Feminists and event the Court have completely disregarded the fact that Indian men are offered no protection from Rape in India, and the entire IPC 375 itself violates Article 14 for men. So Indian women are free to rape adult men in India, legally.
After reading about the one sided biased arguments about Marital Rape in Delhi High Court, a large section of Indian men decided it is enough and started posting tweets with hashtag #MarriageStrike on Twitter. Indian men are already constantly harassed by their wives by plethora of False Cases like 498a, DV Act, 125,Dowry Death and POCSO. So having one more threat of false #MaritalRape cases will surely spell doom for many Indian married men. Also, if the exception of Marital Rape is removed from IPC 375, conviction for every single accused husband is 100% guaranteed, whether he committed the crime or not. This will be discussed in future article.
Below are some popular tweets from #MarriageStrike trend:
Tonight at 9:00pm, please get ready to go all out like crazy in twitter & people about #MarriageStrike by Men in India.
Whether you boycott marriage or not, just join the campaign in Twitter. Just tweet #MarriageStrike.
Tell all ur friends and family members also to join.
Guys !! How many times I will tell you ?? Now Delhi High Court is talking in my lines. MARRIAGE & MUTUAL FUNDS ARE SUBJECT TO MARKET RISK.. READ OFFER DOCUMENTS BEFORE SIGNING THE CONTRACT. Try to misunderstand my words properly !!!#विवाह_बहिष्कार#MarriageStrike@kedianirmal26pic.twitter.com/ETOA6J6Blp
This is the Gynocentric social order wrongly labelled as patriarchy since it benefits funding to feminist NGOs and their charlatans. #MarriageStrikepic.twitter.com/eEqg05UZiD
In this article, we will discuss the plight of married men when they face fake matrimonial cases, decades after their marriage. Most of them are oblivious to what is coming for them, and are caught by nasty surprise. Many incidents are coming out where cases are being filed 10, 15 or even 20 years after marriage. This article describes what they will/are going through after they get cases after decades of marriages. Many men have this misconception that they will not face 498a after 7 years of marriage. They are horribly mistaken. Wife can file 498a anytime claiming she was harassed mentally or physically recently. 498a is a Domestic Violence Law, not a Dowry Harassment only law. This is already discussed here.
Maintenance is guaranteed
A wife who files a maintenance after 10+ years of marriage is guaranteed to get maintenance, even if she is the one who deserted her husband. Most Indian women quite job after 5-10 years of marriage and become full time housewives. This is extremely dangerous scenario for husbands. Courts grant interim maintenance almost instantly, thinking that the wife is a destitute and needs husband’s money to survive. So men are immediately screwed in DV Act or CrPC 125 or HAMA 18 or HMA 24 or SMA 36 sections. Maintenance is discussed in detail in this article.
Children almost always go with Mother
Child custody laws though neutral on paper, always favor women. When a Father is toiling at his workplace to provide for his family, his children are spending maximum time with their mother. When a case is filed 15-20 years of the marriage, they almost always go with their mother. Women also wait for their children to reach adolescence to file cases or get separated. This ensures the most difficult part of childhood is completed with the support of their husband, and then they can reap the rewards alone. So forget your children once your wife separates decades after marriage. In fact, there are many cases when children have betrayed Fathers in courts.
No Support from Parents or Family friends
If a man has to fight matrimonial cases at age of 40-45+, he gets almost no support from Parents or friends. At that age, everyone is busy with their own lives so they can’t spend much time with the man. Parents are also very old, and need attention and care from their son. So it becomes a lonely battle and most men give in to the demands of their wives just to have some peace. Imagine giving up almost everything you earned in your life to your wife just to have some peace? It is an extremely horrible situation.
Joint Property=GONE
If a man has done the biggest mistake of buying property on jointly with his wife, then it is as good as gone when wife files matrimonial cases. Courts will allow her to stay in that house, and she will make sure to take complete possession till the cases run for years. The man can file Recovery Suite or Declaration Suite, but those also run at their own snail’s pace, hardly yielding any results in the man’s favor. In fact, along with the Husband, his parents can also be thrown out of their own house under DV Act 2005. Recent Supreme Court ruling has made sure of that. Supreme Court has also said that Son is Son till marriage, but daughter remains daughter for life. However, courts never ask the Daughters to seek their rights from their parents. They take the property rights from her husband and in-laws and give it to her. So at age of 40+, the man has to search for a suitable rented accommodation for himself and his parents and also continue paying the monthly EMI for the house he “jointly” bought with his wife.
This judgement goes for a toss when a Daughter in Law seeks right to residence in her in-laws house
Wife from different city/state=Nightmare
If the wife belongs to a different city or state, then it is a huge nightmare. She will go to her parent’s house and file all the case in the court there. Supreme Court has already given full rights to women to file all cases from the place they reside, irrespective of where the matrimonial home was located. The husband will have to then travel to that city’s court regularly. Vast majority of Indian courts lack video conferencing facilities so only option is to attend the dates in person. Missing dates by the husband can lead to an atrocious Ex Parte order in favor of the wife. Traveling almost 4 days a month makes managing expenses almost impossible, and if the man has ailing parents then his life becomes a nightmare. Below is a latest news snippet about an Indian Army Soldier who is being harassed by his wife and is asking how can he serve the country when he has to travel regularly to fight cases. Such news are rarely covered by English media as most of them are hardcore Feminists or funded by Feminists.
Soldier who is harassed by his wife saying whether he should travel to courts or serve country
Extra Trouble for NRIs
These laws are nightmare for NRIs. Imagine being a Green Card holder or even a Citizen in US, enjoying a plush IT Job, raking in the money, but losing everything because you committed the grave mistake of marrying an Indian woman? This is exactly what happens when wife suddenly decides to come back to India and file all available cases on Husband. The Ministry of External Affairs site itself suggests Indian women to file 498a on their husbands in case they are abandoned. So any woman is free to come back to India, and file 498a on their husbands claiming she was abandoned. The FAQ can be downloaded from here. Since almost all laws in Developed countries require evidence and punish false accusers, Indian women run back to India and enjoy the weapons given to them by India’s lethargic and ancient Judicial system.
Screengrab of FAQ from MEA website which suggests filing 498a to Indian women
Once FIR is filed, Police know that there is lot of money to be made from a NRI. Red Corner Notices are issued, passports are impounded. Basically a man loses everything if cases are filed in India. Only way to avoid this is to forget about India and live like a fugitive in foreign country. Also. lower courts are quick to grant huge maintenance to NRI husbands without considering the foreign currency expenses in respective countries. Overall, its a special kind of hell when a well settled NRI faces matrimonial cases in India. In fact, the notoriety of 498a is well documented on website of a New York Law Firm.
Conclusion
I have covered a few major pain points if a man faces fake cases in his 40s or decades after marriage. If you are man in your 40s, and you have a fear that your marriage may turn sour any time (always listen to your gut feeling), you have to start acting now to safeguard yourselves. You can seek help at MensRights.Net and hope for the best. Also a request to NRIs: PLEASE STOP MARRYING INDIAN WOMEN. This is for your own good.
In last article, I discussed why MGTOW lifestyle is so appealing to modern men. However, there are many roadblocks or deterrents which prevent or make it difficult for men to follow MGTOW, especially Indian men. India is largely a conservative society, so there are quite a few unique challenges for men to follow MGTOW. I will explain each of them, and try to give solutions for each one. However, following MGTOW depends on a man’s resolve and self control. Men who crumble under peer pressure can never follow MGTOW lifestyle. I am not discussing “Society” here because MGTOW don’t care about society.
Parents
Parents are the biggest deterrent of MGTOW in India. In India, parents are used to controlling their children’s lives as they see fit. The most common situation is that unmarried men are controlled by their parents, and married men are controlled by their wives. Parents simply cannot imagine their son being single for whole life. They fear what society will say or how they will face the society when they will ask questions about their unmarried son. Parents also think that since their marriage lasted long, their son’s will too. Even after knowing the situation of laws, they will have a false sense of security that it won’t happen to them.
Solution: First of all, be independent. Don’t depend on your parents, especially financially. Move out of parent’s house if possible. Explain your parents about the biased laws in detail. Show them the videos of in-laws being beaten up by daughter-in-laws, and the cases being filed on in-laws even if they are the ones being harassed. There are many videos, news available. Show them the extremely biased and hopeless Court judgements like asking men to pay maintenance by begging or borrowing or stealing, or to pay millions in alimony to a cruel wife. If they are sensible, they will realize that world has changed for the bad, and safety of themselves and their son is in MGTOW lifestyle. A good parent will be happy if their kids are happy. So show them that you are more happy being a MGTOW.
Girlfriend
Many guys come to know about MGTOW when already in relationship (most times with a toxic girlfriend) and are fearful about what would she do if they broke up. They fear about false rape cases or false domestic violence cases as discussed here. So getting out of relationship is not that easy. There are way too many cases where girlfriends are filing rape cases after boyfriend breaks up, and are forcing them to marry.
Solution: Make your girl break up, rather than you breaking up. This needs to be planned meticulously, depending upon the girl’s likes and dislikes. Start behaving slowly like a person she hates or has no interest in. Almost all women/girls are insanely hypergamous, so use that at your advantage. Always talk about how scared are you are of your job, and cry randomly. Act emasculated in front of her. No woman likes an emasculated man. Call her later at night saying you are really scared. If she asks you to visit psychiatrist, get real angry or shout on her. Lower your sexual performance. Start liking or showing attraction towards other religion. Start smelling bad, become too clingy. All depends on what your girl doesn’t like. DON’T under any circumstances try to go after other girls or praise other girls to make her jealous. That doesn’t work, it might make her more possessive of you or she can file fake rape case immediately.
Friend Circle
If your friend circle is full of blue pilled guys/beta males/simps, you will find that they will discourage you from following MGTOW lifestyle. Even they are married, and they are unhappy in the marriages (trust me, 95% of men aren’t happy, no matter what they tell you), they will still encourage you to marry. Even if they are supportive, you will find it awkward to hang out with them. Going on trips with them will be impossible, as all their trips will involve their wives, as almost no married woman allows their husbands to go on men only trips. So you will feel odd one out. Some of their wives might even flirt with you or come on to you, further creating awkward situations.
Solution: A true friend will always support your decision. Change friend circle if you don’t have such friends. Almost every major city in India has men fighting for fake cases. You can find such groups on MensRights.Net. They have weekly meets, trips, tours etc. You can even travel solo. Many people enjoy solo traveling, as you are free to take your own decisions. You can join online communities, clubhouse meets to find like minded people. Don’t let your friends decide what you want to do or what you want to be.
The want of a Successor
Many men marry because they want a successor or heir. Going MGTOW means they wont have a successor, and this is what compels them to fall into the marriage trap. Some are even against adoption, they want their DNA to be passed on. Many men have married just to make sure their precious lineage is alive, but have ended up with daughters.
Solution: Don’t ruin your life for something that happens after your death. Adoption is an easy solution to this problem. Personally, I feel that unless you have some Super Hero genes or are from a royal historic family, your DNA is not that special to pass on to next generation. Adopt a baby, give that child a life he deserves. (Single men can’t adopt a female child in India). If you really really want to have a biological child, move to a country which has surrogacy laws that support surrogates for single men. Another solution is to just not worry about a successor, and donate all your wealth and property to your sibling’s kids or to a Men’s Rights organization of your choice.
Old Age
Another major reason that causes men to marry is worrying about old age. They think if they don’t have wife and kids, no one will take care of them in old age, and they will lead a miserable life.
Solution: Such men are unaware about the cases filed by wives after 20, sometimes 30 years of marriage. Sometimes cases are filed with participation of kids. Also, many senior citizens are getting harassed by their daughter in laws, and courts have already given right to residence to such daughter in laws. So there is no guarantee of a peaceful old age life even if you have a family. If you are a man facing fake cases like 498a or DV Act, just look at your parents. Do you want to suffer the same fate in your old age? Moreover, if you are MGTOW, you will have saved so much money that you can move to a country with best old age home in the world, and enjoy your twilight age in peace and harmony.
Conclusion
I have tried to include all the major reasons that act as roadblock or deterrents for MGTOW lifestyle, especially in India. I didn’t include religion because most religions already allow for celibate/single lifestyle (Bhramacharya/Sanyas in Hinduism, Monks in Buddhism etc.). If there are any other major reasons, please post them in comments. I will try to cover them.
Indian men decided to unite together on Twitter, and trended hashtag #MensLivesMatter on Friday 20th August, around 9 PM IST. This trend was to signify that men’s life matter too, and was in support of a recent Petition filed by two law students in Supreme Court of India. The petition filed by Anam Kamil and Shrikant Prasad, seeks Supreme Court’s directions to Indian Government to make the plethora of Indian laws Gender Neutral. They have argued that the laws were made over 150 years ago, and their misuse has reached unprecedented levels, and men need protection too. Recent violent incidents against men also got good media coverage and social media support, even though the perpetrators were left unpunished. Some top tweets in #MensLivesMatter trend below:
Here is our friend Mr. Vivek Jain, who is not with us now. He was the most unfortunate person and was not allowed to even see his daughter on his death bed. He fought the false matrimonial cases on the last stage of his life as well. #MensLivesMatter@KirenRijijupic.twitter.com/AnM4vdMrUp
In 2018, Supreme court dismissed same plea by calling it imaginary and speculative, indirectly saying Men's lives don't matter. Let's see if they have realised in 2021 that #MensLivesMatterpic.twitter.com/GLMpJoa3vu
This trend lasted for over 12 hours at number 3 position, and kept trending for whole day of 22nd August. This riled up the Indian feminists, who couldn’t digest the fact that men are tweeting for themselves, instead of simping for them and falling for their “women are always oppressed” narrative.
Some screenshots/Tweets of Indian Feminists and SIMPs:
not #MensLivesMatter trending. istg these men want to be oppressed so badly. literally go dye, atleast we can live in peace finally🚶🏾♀️
Stop saying #MensLivesMatter because men's lives have always mattered. Women's didn't. Don't hijack women's slogan. The moment marginalized communities stand up and say we matter, dominant community hijacks the platform by making it about themselves or by generalization.
💠She sees rising of weaker groups as a threat to her Supremacy. 💠The Feminist Dictator silences #MensLivesMatter , to secure her Autocracy. 💠The Feminist Dictator wants to divide, isolate & incite hate.
The fact that this trend had over 50k tweets showed that at least some Indian men have woken up and are uniting against systemic exploitation of men in India, and there is not much the Feminists and SIMPS can do about it.
In earlier series of “Why Indian men shouldn’t marry?” I discussed why it is not a good idea for Indian men to marry, thanks to India’s legal framework which is setup for exploitation of married men. In this post, I will explain why Indian men/boys shouldn’t even consider having relationships in India. Having a romantic relationship or even casual fling is extremely risky in India for males. Similar to marital laws, India has a plethora of draconian, illogical and heavily biased women “protection” laws. And no, we can’t blame the Britishers for these laws as some like POCSO or DV Act were enacted way after India became independent, but were still drafted like it is 1857. If you have a relationship, and if it breaks, then the girl has a number of laws to send you to jail if she wants to teach you a lesson for dumping her. I will cover them in detail below.
74% acquittal rate in 2019, out of which 70% cases were filed for consensual sex
Consensual Sex in India before marriage=RAPE
India’s Rape law is quite special. First of all, as soon as a rape complaint is filed by a woman, the accused HAS to be arrested by police (unless accused is a celebrity). No evidence needed. In fact, after the “Nirbhaya” candle marches in 2012, women can refuse medical tests at the time of lodging complaint, and FIR will still be registered. Moreover, any woman can claim she repeatedly had consensual sex with her boyfriend for years, and it was rape because he promised to marry her sometime in future. Yes, you read it right, as per Indian law, women are so stupid that they can sleep with anyone who promises to marry, and if they do so, they are considered as rape victims. No other country in the world has such provision. When these laws were drafted, probably government thought that women will rarely lie about getting raped, which was probably true in 90s, but post 2012, there has been a flood of such cases. Women have become expert liars, and thanks to Supreme Court’s judgement about hiding identity of rape victim and have closed trials in courts, no one knows if a woman has filed a rape complaint. So this has become a sure shot weapon to wreck vengeance on the boyfriends for dumping them, and since arrest of the boyfriend is imminent, most of them either pay up or end up marrying the women under pressure. Yearly, over 16000 men are jailed for having consensual sex in India. Screenshot from National Crime Records Bureau’s 2019 data below. Also, the man/boy doesn’t even need to have sex with the girl to become a rapist in India. I have seen Chargesheet for a rape case, where an arranged marriage broke up, and the girl filed rape complaint. Only evidence needed was a photo with the guy at some café, and a medical report saying she is capable of having intercourse. That’s it.
In 2019; 16,311 men were jailed for having consensual sex in India
POCSO
I have covered POCSO briefly earlier. Protection Of Children from Sexual Offenses act came into enforcement in 2012. It is used to punish sexual offences against minors (under 18 as per India’s age of consent). Even though the victims can be of either gender, the act becomes extremely biased when the complainant and the accused are both minors. So, if a 15 year old boy has a sexual relationship with a 17 year old girl, as per POCSO, the boy becomes the rapist and girl becomes the victim. Isn’t this bafflingly absurd? The people who drafted this act forgot to apply common sense and didn’t cover all possible scenarios. A 17 year old boy was sentenced to life imprisonment under POCSO for having consensual sex with a 15 year old girl. In another most shocking incident, a 13 year old younger brother was sent to detention center under POCSO, as his 16 year old porn addict sister forced him to have sex , and she became pregnant. So if you are a teenage boy, and have decided to romance teenage girls, beware, she or her family can send you to jail for life under POCSO.
16 year old boy was booked for kidnapping and raping his 17.5 year old girlfriend
Live-in Relationships are Domestic Relationships
As per Indian Judiciary, couples in Live-in relationship are in a Domestic Relationship, so the woman can file complaint under DV Act 2005, which is already discussed here. So after breakup, the woman can easily file a case on the man under DV Act and demand maintenance, right to residence etc. So in addition to Rape case, the man in a Live-in relationship can be harassed by DV Act as well. So a Live-in relationship is potentially more dangerous than marriage. Though at least his parents will be safe, so there’s that.
India is a land of diverse cultures and religions. However, historically, this diversity has been misused by the conquerors and invaders by applying the strategy of Divide & Rule. The Moghuls used it, and so did the Britishers. The strategy is used by Indian politicians as well, and it works wonders to divide the votes and create different categories of vote banks. Earlier, this division used to majorly happen on the basis of religion, caste or region. However, since past 15-20 years, the focus is more on dividing the society based on Gender. This is evident in various Women Appeasement policies and laws enacted by Governments of all political parties across India.
Recently, this Gender divide became mainstream during the Tokyo Olympics 2020 (2021), when every single medal won by any Indian woman athlete was praised as “Girl Power” or “Woman Power” or “Smashing the Patriarchy”. Most of these terms were used by Feminists and the SIMPS/Betas. Indian Feminists, who usually copy the next made up “hip” thing from Western Feminists, like “Toxic Masculinity”, “Smash the Patriarchy”, “Gender Pay Gap”, tried hopelessly to demand equal pay for Indian women cricketers, same as Indian men cricketers. This brainless and illogical demand was shot down by Indian woman cricketer Smriti Mandhana, and the demands of equal pay in cricket ended with a whimper.
However, some prominent Indian women, mocked the Indian men for not winning medals at Tokyo Olympics 2020, in its initial days. Such was their impatience, that they didn’t even wait for Olympics to finish, and mocked the men athletes via tweets. One such tweet was by Indian journalist Marya Shakil, who is actually winner of Ramnath Goenka Excellence in Journalism Awards as Best Political Journalist (Broadcast) in 2012. She tweeted:
The tweet is TweetStamped here. As it is clearly visible, she just couldn’t contain the opportunity to mock Indian men, and question their capabilities, when 3 Indian women athletes won medals. Such biased women hold prominent positions in Indian media, and are responsible for forming public opinion.
Not too far behind was Indian Olympian, Babita Phogat. Despite being an athlete and Olympian herself, she mocked the Indian men after Indian woman athlete PV Sindhu won the medal. Below is her tweet:
टोक्यो ओलंपिक में बेटियों ने किया कमाल!! क्या कर रहे हैं हमारे हिंदुस्तान के लाल ??
— Babita Phogat (Modi Ka Parivar) (@BabitaPhogat) August 1, 2021
Babita Phogat questions the capabilities Indian male athletes
The tweet is tweetstamped here. Tweets like these showed utter disregard to efforts put by Indian male athletes, and they didn’t even care about what effect will such tweets have on morale and psyche of the Athletes competing in Olympics.
There were countless other tweets comparing Indian men athletes to Dowry seekers, saying Indian men can only depend on women to bring gold, despite the fact that all Indian Olympic gold medals have been won by men, and 95% of Dowry harassment cases in India are fake.
In not so crazy and totally expected turn of events, Indian men then won more medals (4 out of 7 medals), and Neeraj Chopra actually won another Gold Medal in later days of the Olympics. So far, not a single Indian woman has won a Gold medal in history of Olympics. And as an extra twist of fate, India’s Women wrestler Vinesh Phogat, the sister of aforementioned Babita Phogat who mocked Indian male athletes, was temporarily suspended by Wrestling Federation of India, for indiscipline during Tokyo Olympics 2020.
In India, contested divorce should be renamed as Impossible Divorce. Contested divorce means when an opposite party decides that he/she will ruin the life of the spouse wanting separation, by using the snail paced judiciary at their advantage. When a man files a contested divorce in India, his wife first files entire Fake case package discussed in Part 1 and Part 2 in detail, whether she wants to continue marriage or not. Some do this to get better alimony amount and property (read: extortion), some do just for ego, some do this to threaten the husband so that he takes divorce petition back or some do this just for harassment and sadistic pleasure. Any woman who goes to a lawyer once her husband files divorce, is presented with this fake case package. Most women who are at fault, opt for this readily. Then begins a cat and mouse game of fake cases, court dates, mediations etc. Remember, for Divorce cases, you get a one court date per month (some times once in two months), so at max you get 12 dates per year. In most cases, first 5 to 6 dates are wasted by the wife just to even appear in court, and rest 5-6 dates are wasted by not filing Written Statement (her reply to husband’s petition). So just like that, almost 1 or 2 years are gone, and husband’s situation remains exactly the same, minus the money he spent on lawyer. And then wife’s lawyer uses all the tactics available in the book like asking for mediation, adjournments etc. and around 3-4 years are totally wasted.
Divorce in Higher Courts=More pain
If by some magic, or sheer luck, a husband gets a divorce in lower court/family court, the wife is free to challenge it in Higher courts. So the entire cycle begins again. As the level of courts increases, lawyer fees increase too. Also, High Courts of a state are usually in state capitals or bigger cities, so if you are not located there, husbands have to travel. It just adds on to the misery and time wastage. This simple problem can be solved by making Video conferencing a norm in Indian court hearings, but such sensible decisions are almost never taken in India. Now you must be wondering why the wife will waste her own age fighting cases for years, when the marriage is already broken? No one knows for sure. Its either her extreme stupidity OR lack of sensible parents/friends/well wishers OR just sheer ego/audacity that consumes her sanity and she fights on and on, till she reaches Menopause. There have been instances where husband got divorce for a 20 days marriage after 19 years, and wife has still challenged it in High Court. In one case, wife hid her heart disease from husband, and fought divorce for 16 years. In another case, wife filed multiple fake cases on Husband, cost him his job, and still fought Divorce for 12 years.
Mutual Consent Divorce
Mutual Consent Divorce (MCD) is a divorce in which both husband and wife get separated by agreeing mutually. This case lasts for 6 months (sometimes even a week if 6 months separation period is waived off) in court. 90% of contested divorces end up as MCD. This usually happens when the wife finds her next extortion target and decides its not worth fighting her current husband endlessly. Or the current husband gets her trapped by winning the fake cases and filing criminal defamation or malicious prosecution or perjury. Or the husband just agrees to all demands of his wife. Most of the time, this decision is taken too late by the wife, and nothing meaningful remains in life of either the husband or the wife. Whatever could have happened within first 6 months of separation by cool headed spouses, happens after 6 or sometimes 10 years, because ego takes over common sense.
Conclusion
As you can see, filing divorce by a husband never ends well. I didn’t even cover the grounds of filing a divorce by a husband, or the evidences need to prove the grounds in court. This is simply pointless, as the time to show evidences in court comes after 2-3 years of filing a Divorce case. This is why most MRA organizations never suggest husbands to file divorce. The only good solution to get separated peacefully is actually to never get married in the first place. I haven’t even covered the painful point about alimony and maintenance post divorce, where husbands have been asked to pay maintenance to their working divorced wife, even after their second marriage. Or when husband was asked to pay maintenance even after paying permanent alimony. Or when Supreme Court of India asked Husband to give his wife a house worth Rs 1 crore, despite finding her guilty of cruelty.
With this, I have covered husbands have to go through in the 5 part series of “Why Indian Men shouldn’t marry?”. Please share this with all unmarried men of India, so that they know what is in store for them after marriage. The divorce rates are steadily increasing, they are already around 40% in top cities, and soon the country wide numbers will reach 30% in next 15 years or so.
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I have already explained what MGTOW stands for in Indian context and what are the different levels of MGTOW. In this series of articles, I will try to explain why Indian men shouldn’t marry. We will first begin with most draconian of laws out there: The infamous 498a.
There are several laws made in India post independence, and most of them have been made for appeasement and vote bank politics, with very little provision to put checks and balances on their use. Most of these laws are blatant discrimination based on Gender ( hence the hashtag #GenderBiasedLaws ) aided by Article 15(3) of the Indian constitution, which allows the State to make any special provisions for women and children. One such law is 498a which was supposedly made to protect women from Dowry Harassment post marriage. However, the 498a IPC doesn’t even mention the word “dowry“
It is nothing but the harshest Domestic Violence law in the whole world. Indian Court has called the misuse of this law as “Legal Terrorism” and Supreme Court has said its ruining Indian Marriages. Also, a woman can file 498a any year after marriage. I have seen cases filed 15-20 years after marriage. So men who are in so called “Happy Marriages” now, keep your guard up. Now we will see how it can destroy married men in India.
Cognizable, Non Compoundable & Non Bailable
IPC 498a is a very harsh section, on par with heinous crimes like Murder or Rape. It is Cognizable, which means police have to register a FIR when they come to know about the “crime”. So as soon as a woman reaches the police station, police happily convert her complaint into a 498a FIR. It is Non Compoundable, means once FIR is registered, there is no way to quash it unless you get it done in High Court. Quashing is almost impossible unless the wife agrees to go with the husband in High Court (except Telangana and Andhra Pradesh). It is Non Bailable, means the man can’t get a Station Bail, police will have to bring him in front of Judicial Magistrate within 24 hours of arrest. Now in most cases, police arrest the husband (and sometimes his family) on Friday, so that he spends a weekend in Police Lockup. However, Supreme Court has issued Section 41-A guidelines in case of crimes having less than 7 years punishment like 498a, and it mandates police to serve 41-A notice to the accused and if he complies to that notice and joins the investigation, he will not be arrested. However, in many states, these guidelines are not followed and arrests do happen. And in many cases, the lawyers and even police are suggesting wives to include IPC 377 (unnatural sex) in FIR so that 41-A notice needn’t be served. Also, National Commission of Women has already recommended to increase punishment of 498a to 10 years, so that blatant arrests can resume. Latest Law Commission report mentions this and I can bet that whenever the much touted Law Reforms happen, the punishment will be increased to 10 years.
Parents/Siblings/Relatives can be booked
Yes, in their infinite wisdom, the persons who drafted this law have allowed women to book Husband’s parents, siblings, distant relatives, cousins and even the children of the sibling in 498a complaint. There have been cases when even 2 months old babies have been booked and had to apply for bail. If husband has a brother who is yet to get a job, his career aspirations are basically ruined if he has a criminal case on his head. Same goes for husband’s siblings settled outside India. No other country on this planet has such a provision. Basically husband’s entire family is on the mercy of his wife.
No Evidence required and no punishment for False accusations
Many men have knowledge about Indian law only through movies. They think that if there is no evidence against them or if they have counter evidence, they can stop FIR from being registered or punish the wife for false allegations. Reality is, their evidence is not even sniffed by Police once wife’s complaint is received. FIR is filed, and chargesheet is done and sent to court after “investigation”, and the husband gets to show his evidence in the trial as part of his defense. This stage comes in trial in 2-3 years if he is lucky. Also, the Judge and even the Public Prosecutor know that the case is fake, but they keep going through motions like typical Indian Government machinery. And once the husband is acquitted after 5 years of trial (conviction rate is only 5% all over India), it is rarely mentioned the case was false, and the acquittal is usually based on insufficient evidence. So there is absolutely no gain for the husband from 498a. At best he can use it as a ground for divorce as filing false cases is considered mental cruelty.
Media openly declares everyone as criminals after FIR is registered
Indian media is well known for its biased reporting and sensationalist headlines, fueled by political propaganda. Most of the journalists lack basic etiquettes and moral fiber, and are ready to publish anything to keep their media running. Indian Public too has some sort of weird fetish of reading/viewing news about crimes on women, so most of the TRP and views are given to Crime on Women news. So as soon as FIR is registered, the journalists readily print news about the Dowry Harassment complaints, and name and shame entire list of accused in their reports. Husband can pretty much expect himself and his family being featured in one of the local newspaper and news portal right on the next day after FIR. Some families find this extremely humiliating and are unable to recover from public shaming that occurs, as rest of the Blue Pilled Indian society considers them as monsters based on mere news alone.
CAW Cell/Bharosa Cell Harassment
In some Norther States and some cities in Western India, before 498a FIR is filed, the Crime Against Women (CAW) cell or Bharosa cell invite the husbands for counseling, based on the wife’s complaint. These places are nothing short of hell, and husband is openly asked to comply to wife’s demands or face the music. If the wife has filed the complaint in her home state, husband has to travel 1000s of KMs for these useless sessions, adding more to mental and physical agony. The sooner these cells are closed down or forbidden for counseling for matrimonial issues, the better.
Life is made hell for NRIs
One big warning to all NRIs: Never ever marry an Indian citizen woman, under any circumstances. There have been cases where women have lost DV cases in US courts, and have come back to India just to file 498a, and went back to US again to resume their life. Look out circulars are issued, passports are impounded, and many NRIs loose their jobs. Though recent judgements have mentioned that look out circulars or red corner notices should be issued in rarest of rare cases, but still it is not completely followed.
Lawyer Fees and Judicial Procedure
498a is a great source of income for lawyers. They earn a ton through anticipatory bail proceedings, failed quashing attempts, regular bail, 498a trial, and the failed attempts of Defamation and Malicious prosecution on false case filing wives. Most lawyers charge money per number of accused, so more the accused, more money they make. Also, the entire court process can be cumbersome and draining. For no fault of the husband and his family, they are treated as criminals in court premises. They have to get people to stand up as sureties during Bail proceedings, and some states like Maharashtra have absurd rules like the sureties should have a Ration Card. Good luck finding sureties who have Ration Cards readily available. So people have to end up with cash sureties, which can vary from 15,000 to 1 lakh per accused, entirely based on how Judicial Magistrate was feeling that day. This results in lakhs of money being stuck in court, as interest free deposits, till the trial ends.
Conclusion
The number of cases registered under Section 498A was 1,04,551 in 2017; 1,03,272 in 2018 and 1,25,298 in 2019. 2020 data is yet to be published, but numbers are expected to be over 1,40,000 owing to Lockdown and married couples spending more time with each other. These numbers will keep on increasing year on year, as more and more women will become aware of the weapon they can use to make their husband and his family bow to their demands. I have just mentioned some of the main pain points of 498a, and how it can destroy a man mentally, physically and financially. There have been many suicides committed by husbands in last 20-30 years due to harassment from 498a, but Government and Society doesn’t care. So it is up to men, whether they want to subject themselves to post marriage litigation hell or have a blissful life.
Simplest solution to avoid this risk: DONT MARRY. In the next part, I will cover another major weapon used by wives: Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005 and CRPC 125.
