In Part 1 we saw how Husband and his family can be jailed, in Part 2 I covered how his property is in danger and in Part 3 I covered how his life is in danger. In this part, I will cover if somehow a child is born in a toxic marriage, how that child is used as weapon by the wife, and how she is aided by judiciary and society. In India, the child custody laws though neutral on paper, are extremely biased against men and the plight of separated fathers is often neglected by society, media and judiciary. Lets cover these issues in detail.
Parental Alienation of Fathers
Many separated women use their children as tool for extortion or vengeance. Almost 60-70% of separated couples are separated during the woman’s pregnancy or just after a child is born. Maybe these are hormonal issues or just planned extortion by women, I don’t know. However, once a woman has custody of children & files cases, fathers are never allowed to even see the face of a child or talk on phone. Only way to do this is via filing Visitation Rights or Custody cases, but custody to father is rarely granted. Even if courts grant visitation rights, women rarely comply with them, as Courts never bother to book women under contempt of court. Worst part is that most of these visitation rights are granted conditionally, like pay maintenance and only then you can see children. This is normalized in courts. There have been extremely horrific incidents like mothers taking custody of children, denying visitation rights to father, and keeping the child at her mother’s place, and child was murdered. The Father didn’t even know the news till 1 week later. You can watch the father’s interview here. In many cases, women or her paramours have murdered the children, more examples here and here. Our “progressive” courts have already ruled that adulterous women can also have child custody. One of the worst cases in independent India is when a Divorced woman, who won the custody of her mentally ill son despite being in adultery, killed him for insurance. In some cases, women are teaching their kids to call their fathers as “uncle”, making their life even more miserable. Parental Alienation of Fathers is also a form of Child Abuse, and leads to more crime in fatherless society, mental issues in separated children etc., but I will cover that in detail in some future topic.
Shared Parenting & POCSO
Shared Parenting is a child custody arrangement after divorce or separation, in which both parents share the responsibility of raising their child(ren), with equal or close to equal parenting time. Some developed countries have already made this a law, and efforts are being made by MRAs to implement this in India. Obviously, Feminists will oppose this as they have opposed this in Greece when it made Shared Parenting a law. In practice, couples which separate amicably, follow shared parenting in India. Some celebrity couples are good examples. In reality, if a man is dealing with a narcissistic/vengeful/BPD wife, implementation of Shared Parenting will be nothing short of nightmare. The child will be severely brainwashed by the woman, and the shared time will be spent by the man to remove the misconceptions. The misuse of POCSO (Protection Of Children from Sexual Offenses) Act will also become rampant. There have been many cases where women have falsely accused separated Husbands of sexually assaulting their children, and the men have spent time in jail. Most recent example is this, where the matter is subjudice, so we can’t really know the reality. So if Shared Parenting is not working between warring couples now, it will not work even after it becomes a law. However, it can probably dissuade women from using their children as weapon or extortion, as they know that they have to follow shared parenting anyways.
Conclusion
So if you are a married man and have children, your life and even your children’s life can be completely destroyed by the wife. Many men know this and go through extremely abusive marriages and toxic relationships just for their children. Many men have committed suicide, unable to bear the pain of being separated from their own children, and many have not even seen the face of their own kids as wife deserted them soon after pregnancy. This is going to become worse, as in US courts, there have been judgements where men have been asked to pay for child support for their non-biological children, just because the children considered him as father figure. It won’t take long for Indian courts to “copy” this selective legal precedence from developed world, and force Indian men to pay maintenance for their wife’s children born from adulterous relationships.
Simple solution to avoid this pain & suffering: DONT MARRY. In next and final part, I will cover Divorce and Separation.
PS: If you are separated from children and want child custody/visitation rights, please join MensRights.net and seek assistance.